The verbal tic

Just as a facial tic would distract the audience so to will a verbal tic. You ask what is a verbal tic? A verbal tic is constantly using audible pauses to the point that they start to be a distraction to ones speech. Having an occasional “Ah” is common and most wont notice, but when you have so many “Ah’s” in you speech that this filler word starts to get in the way of the message you are trying to convey. It shows lack of preparation, and lack of confidence in what you are saying thus creating a credibility gap with your audience.

The very best way to cut out the “Ah’s” is to tape yourself when you speak and make yourself aware of your “Ah’s” so the next time you get up in-front of an audience you wont suffer from the verbal tic.

Twenty First Anniversary of Kidney/Pancreas Transplant

“Always laugh when you can, it is cheap medicine.” George Gordon Byron

Today, July 2, 2015 Dori Gilbert is celebrating the twenty-first anniversary of her Kidney/Pancreas transplant. 21 years ago we were both going thru some very tough times while she was waiting for that transplant. Humor helped us cope with those tough times. finding something to laugh at made the pain a little less, lessened the stress of wondering will she ever get her transplant, and gave hope that she would get her transplant.

Modern medicine saved Dori, Laughter gave her hope.

Please consider becoming an Organ and Tissue donor and save lives, please share humor with other and uplift lives with levity.

A Member of the Family

We all have those life lessons. This one is about how Dori’s dog Rhett became a member of the family. I learned the importance of living up to the responsibility of having a dog and why it’s important to adopt one from a shelter. As the Board Chair for Animal Help Alliance we promote Adopt, Foster, Rescue. I hope you enjoy this very personal speech that actually saved the life of a dog who’s owner was sitting in the audience and because of this speech decided not to turn her dog into a shelter.

Putting the Punch In The Punchline

When telling a joke many speakers don’t get a laugh because they don’t punch the punchline. They call it the “Punchline” because you are supposed to punch that line. Think of the setup for the joke as sparing and the punchline is the upper cut.

Laughter Can Help Us Cope With Change

Change, uncertainty, the unknown. These words can cause one to stress out. Whether in your professional life or your personal life the fear of the unknown can create stress. This is when we need to keep our sense of humor most. It is easy to laugh when everything is cheery, but it is self-preserving to be able to laugh when the feelings of fear start to take effect. Abraham Lincoln understood the importance of laughter and coping when he said, “With the fearful strain that is one night and day; if I did not laugh I should die.” Laughter can help us cope with the tension of not knowing what is next. Maintaining a sense of humor can help put the situation in perspective. Next time you are starting to stress out about the unknown ask yourself or those around you that are starting to stress out “What is the worst that can happen?” and give as many outrageous or ridiculous answers as you can come up with. Pretty soon you will be laughing at the outlandish responses. Quite often it is our anticipation of the unknown that causes anxiety rather than the actual occurrence. Dr. David B Posen, author of “Staying Afloat When the Water Gets Rough: How to Live in a Rapidly Changing World” said, “Humor isn’t about changing what happens. It’s about changing our reaction to what happens. And those who use humor as a coping strategy are generally more resilient and adaptable when faced with change.”

National Donor Month

Motivational Humor

Motivational Humor

Not only is April National Humor Month, but April is also Donate Life Month to bring about awareness of the importance of organ and tissue donation. I have had the privilege to speak to many organ transplant support groups over the years about using humor as a coping mechanism while waiting for and recovering from an organ transplant. I’ve noticed that those that had the best sense of humor seemed to handle the stress of waiting for a transplant and  recovering from their surgery. In these groups I would give examples of how Dori and I used humor while she was suffering from diabetic kidney disease and was on the waiting list for a kidney and pancreas transplant. Then I opened the workshop up for discussion and the members of the group would share their experiences they had while waiting and recovering from a transplants and the humor they found while going through these difficult times. One heart transplant recipient found out he had received a female heart. He said, “Not only am I grateful for my donor to give me her heart, but now as a result I am also in touch with my feminine side.” Then he joked, “I have to admit I get a little cranky once a month and crave chocolate.” Another heart transplant recipient joked that when she received her heart transplant there were complications and that the surgeon had to open her chest up 3 times in less than two days all the while she was still unconscious. When she finally came conscious the doctor walked in to see how she was doing and the first thing she said to the doctor was, “You opened me up 3 times before you were able to get the surgery right.  The least you could have done when you opened my chest up that many times is throw in a free boob job.”

 

Dealing with health issues whatever they may be is always tough, but incorporating a little humor can help you cope and maybe even thrive while struggling with your illness.

Dr. 7

National Humor Month and Donate Life Month

With the exception of the 15th April is my favorite month. Two very important things in my life take place in April. It’s National Humor Month and also National Donate Life Month about the importance of Organ and Tissue Donation. Both of these causes play a very significant role in my life.

As a motivational Humorist I not only speak on the importance and benefits of humor in our lives, but since Dori’s Kidney/pancreas transplant, I often speak to inspires organ and tissue donation. To medical personnel in that field I speak from the patient’s point of view and how we used humor to deal with such a serious illness.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could combine the two! For instance, if a person s lacking a sense of humor, we could give him a transplant of a funny bone or a humorous.